When should you seek relationship coaching or counseling?
You feel disconnected from your significant other and miss your best friend.
The fighting, bitterness, and resentment are constant intrusions in your primary or other relationships. You can’t seem to agree on anything.
Things aren’t the same since the children came along, and your parenting styles don’t align.
You’re afraid to speak up in the relationship or even to ask for simple things.
An important relationship has ended. There was infidelity, a divorce, a death.
The mental health struggles of your partner have made coping difficult.
You keep asking yourself, what is wrong with me, that I don’t have a healthy relationship?
One of you has retired and now what?
You look around you and can’t find anyone to walk through life with – you feel so alone.
At the core, we are all created for relationship. This is not just my opinion, but a truth revealed by science. This need starts from the moment each of us is born. Babies who do not receive the stimulus needed from a kind, caring and attentive caregiver have brains that don’t develop optimally. And, most amazing of all, relationships continue to shape us throughout our lives. The challenge is that relationships can create either wellbeing or damage. I believe that we all deserve relationships that help us be or become our most positive, authentic selves.
Who should seek relationship coaching or counseling?
Relationship coaching or counseling can be pursued either by couples or individuals. If you are in a committed relationship that needs help, it’s likely that the relationship itself needs guidance, so coming as a couple can be the best option. If coming as a couple isn’t possible for whatever reason, there are still benefits to be obtained if one or both parties are coached individually.
As an individual you will address various relationship factors, including, assessing your current relationships, how you show up in relationship, how to find your voice, identifying and using your strengths in relationships, strategies for positively influencing your relationships, overcoming the loss of a relationship, and so on. Often, it’s the relationship you have with yourself that is key to your other relationships.
“Do not walk behind me, I may not lead. Do not walk in front of me, I may not follow. Just walk beside me and be my friend. ”
What can I expect from relationship coaching or counseling?
Together, we will explore what is going on in your relationships and identify the changes you’d like to make. We’ll look at your personal and relational strengths, areas where you feel stuck, and the patterns you experience in your relationships. These can be used to achieve your relational goals.
Depending on how deep you want to go, other areas that we may explore are core values, overall life goals, and personality considerations. The current status of your relationships and your goals will determine this depth.
As an objective outsider to your relationships, I can often see things you are unaware of. This can be a huge benefit of relationship coaching or counseling.